Balancing Work, Kids, and the Myth of Having It All

The Truth About " Having it All"

Here’s the thing: You can have work. You can have kids. But you cannot have them both running perfectly at the same time without something — or someone — getting a little neglected. Sometimes it’s the laundry. Sometimes it’s your inbox. Sometimes it’s… well, your sanity.

The trick isn’t perfection. It’s balance.

Redefining “Having It All”

The notion of “having it all” is frequently influenced by societal norms that may not reflect personal values. It’s essential to pause and redefine what this phrase means for you.

For instance, while some individuals may equate success with promotions or salary increases, others may find fulfillment in being present for family milestones, such as attending a child's first play or game. By understanding your priorities, you can relieve some of the pressure to meet others' expectations.

Work-Life Balance (a.k.a. The Great Juggle)

Think of life like a game of juggling… except the balls are on fire, one is crying, one is emailing you about a meeting, and one just rolled under the couch.

Some days, work will need more of your focus. Other days, your kids will take the front seat. And on some magical days, you’ll feel like you’re giving both your best — and those are the days you’ll be tempted to start a blog called “How I Do It All.” (Spoiler: you won’t keep that up for long.)

How to Stay (Mostly) Sane

1. Know your top priority each day – It might be a work deadline. It might be a school play. It might be taking a nap so you can survive the evening.

2. Outsource where you can – Groceries, laundry, carpool swaps… you don’t have to do it all yourself.

3. Stop comparing – The mom with the spotless kitchen probably hasn’t slept in two days. The colleague who’s always early to meetings might have a secret stash of takeout containers at home.

4. Give yourself grace – You’re not failing. You’re just doing the most important job in the world while also doing another job in the world.

Final Word

You can’t “have it all” all at once  and that’s okay. You can have a meaningful career. You can have a loving family. And you can find a rhythm where both get the attention they need (most days). The rest? That’s what takeout, school picture day retakes, and forgiving yourself are for.

So if you’re worried about adding more kids into the mix, remember: You will figure it out. Your priorities will shift. And your version of balance might not look like anyone else’s — but it will work for you.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have to answer an email while making a snack, breaking up an argument, and pretending I remember where I put my coffee cup.